New Year’s Resolution

I very rarely make New Year’s resolutions, not because I’m perfect but because I don’t want to set unrealistic goals and remind myself that I’m imperfect. My last New Year’s resolution was back in 2000 when I resolved to quit smoking. I did it, cold turkey, and I haven’t looked back. This year, after a 15-year hiatus, I am making another resolution: to be a more patient mother. I’m not convinced I can achieve this goal, but during the few days already passed this year, I’ve tried my damnedest.

When I asked my daughter to set the dinner table yesterday, she ignored me, THREE times. Last year, in response to an identical scenario, I raised my voice and harshened my tone, “I’ve asked you three times. Set the table.“

“No,” she said.

“You have a choice. Set the table in one minute or go to bed without dinner!”

Fine!” My daughter stamped her foot, grabbed her plate and cutlery and slammed it on the dinner table.

I took a deep breath to quash the steam about to flare out my nostrils like an angry dragon mother.

dragon

Yesterday, when I asked my daughter to set the table, she ignored me again. So I tested my New Year patience and said calmly, “I’ve asked you three times. Please set the table.”

Silence.

“Are you going to set the table?” I asked, “or would you prefer to go to bed early?”

“I want another mother,” my daughter screamed.

For the love of God, this patience game is not working, I thought.

Again, I took a deep breath to suppress the steam about to shoot out my nostrils like a dragon mother and I said, “That’s not a very kind thing to say. How would you feel if I said I want another child?”

She paused a few seconds. “I love you. I just don’t like you.”

You tell me, is my new parenting patience paying off? Perhaps it’ll be the last resolution I set myself for another 15 years.

2 thoughts on “New Year’s Resolution

  1. Sarah you are being way too hard on yourself! How on earth can you measure whether or not you succeed? By NEVER losing your cool? I don’t think any parent has ever totally conquered the patience game. My kids are now 17 and 14 and I STILL struggle xx

    • I’m in Sydney at the moment and the weather is definitely testing my patience today. My girls are letting off steam by doing laps of the dining table when they should be doing laps in the pool.

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