A friend told me she and her partner are trying to conceive. “I’m no spring chicken,” she said. “But if we can’t get pregnant we can always adopt if we have to.”
In the spirit of Adoption Awareness Month, I would like to point out that people don’t “have to” adopt. Adoption is not always a last resort. My husband and I chose to adopt rather than trying IVF. I have friends with biological children who also adopted for the sake of giving a needy child a family. Adoption is just another way of creating or expanding a family.
I am sure I made uninformed, unthoughtful comments about adoption before I became a parent, but now that I’m in a position to right that wrong, I want to say that adoption is a choice. A great choice. There will forever be a stigma attached to adoption if people continue to consider it a last resort.