Adoption: Something to Celebrate

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November is Adoption Awareness Month. As a mother of two adopted children, I see it as a month to advocate and celebrate adoption.

Living in a multi-cultural city like Singapore, my daughters have many other transracially-adopted children at their school. Like our family, these adoptive families see adoption as something to celebrate. We decided to start our own adoption group, to meet up once a month for the kids to play and for the parents to swap notes. Families who are thinking about adopting a child also join the group. Families with a mix of biological children and adopted children come too.  It’s meant to be an all-inclusive event.

One day before our first get-together, one of the adopted children attending said to her school friend, “Did you come to your Mummy from the doctor or adoption?”

“I don’t know.” The little girl went home and asked her mother.

The next day, the girl answered her friend, “I came to my Mummy from the doctor.”

“Well, you can’t come to our adoption group.”

All of a sudden, our little minority group had become an exclusive club. Although that is not the intention of the group, from an adoptive mother’s perspective, all I can say is – thank God the adopted kid was proud of being adopted and saw it as something positive. That’s something to celebrate.

6 thoughts on “Adoption: Something to Celebrate

  1. Wait till these young children grow up and begin to question where they really came from. You won’t be so happy then. Adoptees of color are leaving their adopted homes by the thousands to go back to their homelands. You people are out of touch with reality.

    • Dear Joan,
      I appreciate your point and that is why I take my adopted children back to their birth countries and birth families every year to visit – I think it is important they retain ties to their roots, to their birth culture and birth families. That way, they will never have to question where they really came from – they already know. However, this is not a realistic option for many families who have no knowledge of their children’s past. Although their adopted children’s histories carry trauma and sadness, I think most adoptive families do the best they can to bring up happy kids in a stable and loving environment. I support the idea that children should be reared in their home country and home culture when the situation allows it, but sadly that is not always possible, particularly for children born in developing countries whose birth parents have died or are unable to care for them. Surely a loving adoptive family in a foreign country is better for a child than a life on the streets, or life in an institution.

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