IVF or Russian roulette?

A friend of mine got lucky the first time around the IVF maze.

Another friend persistently underwent countless rounds of IVF for years and finally fell pregnant.

One friend took out a second mortgage on her home to pay for ongoing IVF treatments. She eventually gave up.

An ex-colleague did IVF with his wife and the only result was that his wife turned into a hormonal demon.

I have another friend who did one round of IVF and hated it so much she changed doctors and immediately fell pregnant naturally.

One friend underwent several rounds of IVF without any success. She then took herself off to a traditional Chinese medicine man to cleanse her body of the hormones that had been pumped into her, and she conceived a child naturally.

We all know stories of friends who have ridden the emotional rollercoaster of infertility. What no one knows is who will be rewarded with an impregnated embryo and who won’t. It’s like playing Russian roulette. I’m not a gambler, so I quit the whole fertility treatment process after a couple of rounds of IUI (Intrauterine Insemination). The doctor described IUI as ‘non-invasive’, but let me tell you, I was as invaded as I’ve ever been. So, I can only imagine what IVF entails.

I think the best way to get through the stress and angst of fertility treatment is to share your journey with close friends and family. I know I didn’t, which meant I carried the weight alone. In hindsight, I should have reached out to people for support. If you know anyone undergoing IVF please reach out. It might not help them win roulette, but it will make the game easier.



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